October 2018 started off as any other month, busy planning Halloween costumes, getting in the mood for sweater weather although it never really hits in Charlotte til November. But then suddenly the once healthy vibrant 30 year old became sick, struck down with strep. Silently the sickness that had been in her body for months crept in and she never saw it coming.
Fast forward 5 months later I was receiving the phone call that would forever change my life. I remember 2 weeks prior going in for a simple colonoscopy thinking “oh it’ll be fine I’ll be able to eat again”. To preface I hadn’t eaten a real meal in 4 months because my stomach would either erupt into pain or I wouldn’t have a bowel movement unless I chugged magnesium citrate. Which if you never have don’t. Oh that was not the case. For 2 agonizing days we waited patiently for the results of an abnormal biopsy. I remember sitting in the shower floor crying as the water poured down on me praying to God that if it was cancer to give me strength to keep going. I spoke to him saying I know it had been awhile since we had talked but I trust him and the plan he has given to me.
That Monday at 2:28 as I was preparing to wake up my little at work I got the call. THE CALL. It was almost like my body went into shock and I simply replied to the doctor “Thank you and have a nice day”. I went about my day as I normally would walking to get my kids from school and not even grasping what had just been said to me. All I wanted to do was keep going with my daily routine. Maybe the bad stuff would just go away if I did that. That afternoon was filled with phone calls to Mom and Dad and a few close friends and tears that were dried up quickly in the bathroom so my nanny kids wouldn’t suspect anything was wrong. That night I cried and cried as Joe held me saying with such positivity how we would get through this. That weekend we spent with friends as I broke the news and we just cried together and prayed that the outcome would be great.
February 24th would begin the hardest fight of my life, as I had gotten so weak I physically couldn’t walk up the stairs and had to be carried up and to my bed. That night the decision was made to drive to Duke and to be seen by doctors, the drive was long and filled with many tears. The next few days were filled with doctors, bloodwork, emergency surgery and the very real aspect that I was in the fight for my life.
There is not rest for the weary when you’re fighting cancer that’s for sure. By the time they did another scan 3 weeks later we would learn I would need the most aggressive chemo and my tumor was advancing to stage 4 very quickly. So 2 weeks after surgery we began the first out of 8 round chemo and boy did it kick my ass. Again I prayed to God making my peace with him if it was indeed my time to go I would not argue. But good old mom came in telling me to fight because she was not going to bury her daughter and that I was going to fight and not give up because too many people were praying for me and for Harold to get out of my body. She was right as she always is. Most days were spent on the couch or in bed as mom tried to get me to eat and drink or held me while the chemo pain was so bad I just wanted to give up and roll over. 8 chemo treatments, 28 days of radiation and 2 surgeries under my belt I can officially say with gusto that I am cancer free and on my way to gaining my life back.
If this ordeal has taught me anything is patience and strength. I have been through more crap in my 30 years and in some cases have literally hit what I thought at the time was rock bottom. I realize know that God put me through all those trials not to break me but because he was teaching me strength and showing my how strong I truly am as he knew my hardest battle in life was about to come to light. I prevailed. I beat the statistics and even proved my doctors wrong. My oncologist said to me at my last appointment that he honestly didn’t think I was going to make it to the end. Kind of made me feel like the underdog or the tortoise who was slow but steady and won the race.
Before this journey started I was the girl who was shy in a crowd, never tried anything new and didn’t know her own inner strength. I am strong and I am ready to face anything life throws at me. Some days are still filled with tears and temper tantrums because I just want to be normal again and have my old life back. I have learned though it’s okay to cry to be angry and upset. But I can’t let that stop me. I will never have the life I had before this and I am okay with that. All I can do I to continue to trust God and the plan he has for me. I have to keep going and keep moving foward.
“To the warriors who are fighting, to the ones who have just started the fight and to the ones who have fought and lost, we are all brave warriors in the fight”